Are you asking the right questions?

Happiness Designer

“Always the beautiful answer who asks a more beautiful question” -E.E. Cummings

Our intention guides us and drives us.

It is our intention that ultimately leads us towards what we want in life. Sometimes we don’t always ask the question because we are afraid of the answer or we think we already know what the answer is. Or we go full speed ahead and ask the question with a certain tone, you know the one, the accusatory or blaming way and to our surprise or not, we get a response that is answered in exactly the same gritty tone that it was asked.

Why do we intentionally look to do things the hard way, let’s take a look at how we think about our intentions and see if we can start creating some awareness around why we do what we do, but don’t get what we want;

• When I ask a question do I listen for the answer? Or do I have to ask it again?
• Do I ever ask certain questions so I can judge or criticize the answer? Why do I do this? What do I gain?
• Have I ever asked a question in such a way, that I knew the person would respond the same way? Do I intentionally look to start an argument? Why?
• Do I think about my intentions of knowing the answer before I ask the question?
• Is it important for me to be right or in harmony with the people I care about?
• If I were to be harmonious with my intentions rather than cynical would I feel better about myself or worse? How would I reconcile this?
• How would it improve my wellbeing, if I were to be aware of my intentions first?

We have all gone down the road of regret at one time or another, you know the old, why did I say that?

Or why did I do that?

You regret and forget because inevitably we do it again, we are after all, human. But what if we were aware of why we want to know the answer to something. Is it because we care and want to share in other’s lives or do we sometimes use it to gather information to later be used to defend your actions against another. We always can justify our actions one way or another.

To be responsible for our actions and intentions is the direction we all strive for. The place to start is to be aware of our intention towards ourselves and others. When we are centered and feel confident in who we are, we are able to share who we are with others, this in turn creates a domino effect of sorts, others feel like they can be themselves and they can share without criticism or judgement and this is what we call interdependence.

Imagine what life would be like if we could all do this, everybody wins, everybody gets what they want and thus we create the life we want with our intention.

Take some time and be aware of where you put your energy? If your day is going great, and you are enjoying it, your intentions are in the right place, if it’s not going where you like, stop, take a few minutes and reset, it’s never too late to choose how you want your life to be.

Start by asking yourself some beautiful questions, with the intention of getting some beautiful answers!!!

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are” -E.E. Cummings