Shonda Rhimes, creator of the hit shows Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal, chronicles how saying YES for one year changed her life – and how it can change yours, too!
From the outside, many could understand why Shonda would say no. With three children at home and three popular TV shows on television, the talented Shonda Rhimes had plenty of reasons to say NO to unexpected invitations. In fact, some may even call her an expert at saying no. Hollywood party? No. Speaking engagement? No.
Shonda figured it was easier to say ‘no’ than to over-commit. Additionally, there was the other benefit of saying no – nothing new to fear. Shonda was a self-proclaimed introvert that was nervous to accept new challenges. She was afraid of simple things like cocktail party faux pas and petrified of live television appearances. She would rather bury herself in work, snuggle with children, and comfort herself with food than commit to various public engagements.
The Saying Yes Challenge
Shonda’s shift came from a challenge that her sister laid upon her. On Thanksgiving in 2013, Shonda’s sister muttered something that was both a wake up and call to arms: You never say yes to anything.
The words stung because they were true. Shonda had social anxiety and unhappiness with her weight that caused her to say no to many amazing opportunities.
Her sister challenged her for just one year to try and say YES to the unexpected invitations that were thrown her way. Coming from a big competitive family, Shonda was the youngest of six. Shonda ended up agreeing to the challenge – that she would say yes to anything – and the results are inspiring.
In the Year of Yes, Shonda Rhimes chronicles her journey of saying yes and how it impacted her life for the better.
What You Can Accomplish When you say Yes
When Shonda Rhimes began to force herself out of the house, amazing things began to happen. She appeared on Jimmy Kimmel live, and gave the Dartmouth Commencement speech. She said ‘yes’ to her health and felt more empowered in her decisions that affected her work and personal life.
Learnings from saying “Yes”
If you are a self-proclaimed introvert looking to live a more fulfilled life, this book is for you. Shonda is the first one to tell you that money, power, and accolades do not lead to self-worth and love.
Shonda Rhimes tells her story in a wildly candid memoir. She encourages you to say yes to your weight, finding your inner voice, finding real friendships and love. She even encourages readers to say ‘yes’ to saying ‘no.’ she explains that there is power in saying no and not over committing yourself. When you become an honest, healthy person, you can cultivate honest, healthy relationships with others and live a more fulfilled and joyful life. \Posted: Fri Apr 22nd 2016 12:17pm 5 years ago
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